Submitted by Bill:
Josie, at dinner, told me that she never had much luck with men. She was an attractive 20-something with a solid career as a booking agent. I asked her what went wrong, and she said that they always wanted what she couldn't give or else lost patience with her.
I asked her what about her they'd lose patience with and she told me that I'd possibly find out on my own. When I asked her for a hint, she said, "See? You're already losing patience."
I replied, "I'm not. You made a statement and I'm curious."
"No," she said, "You're impatient. Just like the rest of them."
I decided to drop it and moved on to ask her about her family.
Her response: "Don't you want to know why I haven't had good luck with guys?"
I said, "I just asked you about that. You told me that I was impatient just like the rest of them."
She said, "You are. It's a turn-off."
"Okay. I don't care. Tell me about your family, then."
"Now you're being spiteful! Oh my god! Chill out!"
I stared at her, unsure of what sort of game she was trying to play. Very calmly, I said, "I'd like to change topics."
She said, "Can you give it a rest? Just stop it!"
"What am I doing?"
She trembled, waved her hands around for a second, and closed her eyes. Finally, she said, "Nevermind. I don't want you making any more of a scene. Let's just finish dinner and then say good night."
I was pleased to hear her finally talking sense.
We call those cluster B's. They can be fun in controlled doses.
ReplyDeleteBill, Bill you handled that all wrong!
ReplyDeleteYou were meant to make sympathetic noises about her statement and then let her tell you in her own time .... it's so simple ......
Seren
What a horrible date. She was just playing games. Women like that tend not to have their shit together and make poor partners. I'd say you dodged a bullet.
ReplyDeleteBullet. Dodged.
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