Submitted by Craig:
My date with Jillian was in the early fall, and we were out on a walk. She was shivering and I offered her my coat. She declined it and we kept on walking. We had a destination in mind, but her obvious discomfort made me say, "Let's go into this nearby coffee place, just to warm up."
She claimed to be fine and that she just wanted to keep walking. Okay, then.
She kept shivering and I took off my coat and put it on her. She asked me what I thought I was doing, and I told her that it was okay, I'd be fine. She handed the coat back to me without a word. All right.
Her teeth began chattering and I stopped. "Are you feeling well? You're shaking all over."
She snapped that she was fine, asked me why I couldn't leave her alone, and said that I was just as overbearing as her ex. Here I was just trying to be nice.
We finally made it to our destination (a community theater) but I had already decided not to see her again after that. I wouldn't want my niceness to be continually misread and mistrusted.
On a hot day, it would be nice to go to bed with her just to get the cold shoulder
ReplyDeleteYou horrible, generous, thoughtful man!
ReplyDeleteSo you think that you know what's best for her, despite her repeatedly telling you that she was fine and didn't want help? Maybe she didn't mind being cold or was annoyed at how pushy you got. To me, your "niceness" sounds much more like "God, this girl desperately needs me to take care of her, why won't she admit it?" No wonder she thought you were overbearing.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 3:44, the problem is that people like to play games. He doesn't know, maybe she is testing him. Maybe she is trying to see if he will go out of his way to be nice to her. With some people, you just can't make them happy.
ReplyDeleteHEY! Anonymous numero uno! Are you the charming young lady from the story?
ReplyDeleteI realize you were trying to be nice, but seriously, if someone kept insisting I must be cold even if I repeatedly said I wasn't, I'd get irritated too.
ReplyDeleteMaybe she just figured she knew more about her internal temperature than you did. Or maybe your coat stank.
ReplyDeleteOf course you were just being nice, but you were trying to hard. At the 2nd time she assured you that she was fine, you should have dropped it.
ReplyDeleteNo offense, but maybe she wasn't that into you and didn't like the idea of having to wear your coat. Either way, it's obviously better that you two shouldn't see each other anymore :)
she needed to "basket"
ReplyDeleteeverybody knows "no" means "yes", her version of this date would probably start off "i was almost raped"
ReplyDeleteA lot of guys on this blog seem to be quite the authorities on women... makes you wonder how they have so much time to spend making comments on this blog...
ReplyDelete12:37 can you explain your free time in being able to read these comments?
ReplyDeleteas a chick i think he did the right thing here and it was sweet... some girls refuse the jacket because yeah they are cold but they don't want to make their date cold ... and yeah i'm one that would feel bad accepting his jacket unless he insisted but thats just me...
ReplyDeletewith that being said i'm not sure thats her issue based on how very defensive she got...
Holy moly. You folks are really dissecting this situation and it's not really that necessary.
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